The Home Team! Isn’t it funny how as we get older, the home team gets smaller but more valuable? You live, you learn. But, oh do you value your Home Team.
Back in the day when Grey’s Anatomy was really good, I remember Cristina and Meredith always called each other their “person.” I kept thinking who is my person? It was clear.
I smile at this passage because there’s nothing I dislike more than when good friends are at my place and they ask for everything. Can I have this? Are you sure? Can I grab a glass of this? Is that okay? YES!!! What’s mine is yours. I truly do love when people help themselves.
I must say, working in the middle of the night can be a little worrisome because not everybody is up when you need them. But, the Home Team doesn’t mind if you call or text. Not if it’s important. Not if you need them.
As we grow, the circles get smaller, but in many ways it’s actually kind of nice. You know where you stand with people. You know who you can count on. There are sometimes a few little surprises along the way. Someone who you thought would be there for a long time, is no longer there, who you thought you would or should feel comfortable counting on, you can’t… but that only helps build the team. There are certain people I’m really close with, and even the biggest or rarest fight wouldn’t keep me from calling them if I needed help. I can say with confidence they would be there. Those are the people you want on your team.
I would say right now many of my friends are going through transition, and as difficult as it can be sometimes, it’s also exciting. You need people to look at the positive side of what’s viewed as a downside to that person. There can be days that set you back or days that someone is feeling blue, but the Home Team gets you through. They celebrate the small things. The big things. The baby steps. The giant steps. You feel joy bringing them good news. Your day is better because their day is better. You have to have people that have your back. If someone says something negative about someone you love, your blood should boil. You should get defensive and you should protect them. Sometimes we get really close to our friends and we are bound to have “moments,” but if it’s not communicated and if it goes silent for too long, they were never part of the team to begin with.
One thing is for sure, and I’ve said it a million times. The people I talk to on the phone are on my Home Team. The “texting only” club isn’t for me. Hearing a voice… getting a phone call and making a phone call means you are invested. You want to hear how that person is feeling and how they are doing. It doesn’t have to happen all the time. But it has to happen consistently. If you don’t want to talk, then you probably just want the scoop now and then. That bores me. That annoys me. You’ll never be on my Home Team.
Think about your Home Team. Value them! We all need one.
Good days, and bad days. Every day!