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Let’s Hear It For The Home Team!

The Home Team! Isn’t it funny how as we get older, the home team gets smaller but more valuable? You live, you learn. But, oh do you value your Home Team.

Back in the day when Grey’s Anatomy was really good, I remember Cristina and Meredith always called each other their “person.” I kept thinking who is my person? It was clear.

Home Team

I smile at this passage because there’s nothing I dislike more than when good friends are at my place and they ask for everything. Can I have this? Are you sure? Can I grab a glass of this? Is that okay? YES!!! What’s mine is yours. I truly do love when people help themselves.

I must say, working in the middle of the night can be a little worrisome because not everybody is up when you need them. But, the Home Team doesn’t mind if you call or text. Not if it’s important. Not if you need them.

As we grow, the circles get smaller, but in many ways it’s actually kind of nice. You know where you stand with people. You know who you can count on. There are sometimes a few little surprises along the way. Someone who you thought would be there for a long time, is no longer there, who you thought you would or should feel comfortable counting on, you can’t… but that only helps build the team. There are certain people I’m really close with, and even the biggest or rarest fight wouldn’t keep me from calling them if I needed help. I can say with confidence they would be there. Those are the people you want on your team.

I would say right now many of my friends are going through transition, and as difficult as it can be sometimes, it’s also exciting. You need people to look at the positive side of what’s viewed as a downside to that person. There can be days that set you back or days that someone is feeling blue, but the Home Team gets you through. They celebrate the small things. The big things. The baby steps. The giant steps. You feel joy bringing them good news. Your day is better because their day is better. You have to have people that have your back. If someone says something negative about someone you love, your blood should boil. You should get defensive and you should protect them. Sometimes we get really close to our friends and we are bound to have “moments,” but if it’s not communicated and if it goes silent for too long, they were never part of the team to begin with.

One thing is for sure, and I’ve said it a million times. The people I talk to on the phone are on my Home Team. The “texting only” club isn’t for me. Hearing a voice… getting a phone call and making a phone call means you are invested. You want to hear how that person is feeling and how they are doing. It doesn’t have to happen all the time. But it has to happen consistently. If you don’t want to talk, then you probably just want the scoop now and then. That bores me. That annoys me. You’ll never be on my Home Team.

Think about your Home Team. Value them! We all need one.

Good days, and bad days. Every day!

Show Up For People

Isn’t it funny, but understandable, that we live our lives worrying about “what if?” It’s not uncommon, in fact, it makes sense. But how many times have we heard the saying, “just live for today!” It’s true, in a way, but we do have to plan and think out what we want and how we feel.

I for one, don’t think about “what if.” Pretty much every single thing that has happened to me, or decision I made, was exactly how it was supposed to be. However, I worked for it to be that way. I threw away the negative, I forgave, I worked to keep relationships that were important to me, I pulled myself together, and I made sure that I gave back. Smaller circles helped in that process. Not everyone needs to be your best friend. I only trust deeply in the ones that truly care about my well being. I have learned to know the difference.

Living in Las Vegas is absolutely wonderful. However, I’ve heard time and time again, it wears some people down. The best medicine is being open to everyone, but confiding in small circles. Nobody needs to know your every emotion or what you are going through, unless you want them to, of course. That’s your choice. You may ask, what makes a good friend? Who can I trust? Here’s what I have learned.

You show up. They show up.

You have to show up for people. If you show up, they will show up. If you are tired, or busy, you have to make time to be there. I do it. Sometimes I don’t have time for it, but I know I want to be there. I show up. In return, every single one of those people, have shown up for me. And they really do care.

Don’t think I’m just talking about the bad stuff either. You may have someone that asks you to be there for a great moment too. It’s important to them. They want to share their happiness. Show up. If you show up, they’ll show up too.

There’s always going to be times you simply can’t, it’s out of your control. You have to work or you have responsibilities. But, you can make it up to them. You show up in other ways.

You can’t judge how someone handles their life, it’s not your life. Be open. I certainly have had to think about this when handling different relationships, and now that I am more open, I realize not judging makes me such a better friend. That’s now what I receive in return.

I’m no expert, I’m just sharing something that has worked for me. If it can help one person, great. All I’m saying is… it’s a great feeling when people make you feel safe, you show up, they’ll probably show up too!