I have started three blogs, and erased each one.
Today, I am having trouble writing. The first was going to be about honesty, the second was going to be about missing key moments in a friend’s life when you lose touch, and the third was going to be about taking what you learn from failed past relationships into a new one and changing the way you used to be for the better (but wondering if that means you are not yourself.)
I erased them all because each one includes a story, or background. It risks the privacy of people.
I have issues with privacy. I think everyone deserves to have it. I love social media and the internet, but I have also seen many people hurt by it. Over and over again. I know… public figures and celebrities must expect to have many parts of their life exposed. It comes with the territory. But there are limits. It becomes uncomfortable and at some point, a person can feel violated. Sometimes there’s just no reason for it.
Twitter is the worst, because you can’t erase what someone else writes. It causes panic for some.
Maybe you don’t want people to know you are dating so and so yet, because you aren’t sure of the relationship and it’s just getting started. Maybe you don’t want the world to know you are out sick from work. Maybe you don’t want everyone to know you were at restaurant “A” having a business lunch with someone that could be a potential partner or client. Should your Realtor tweet you and say they are finding some good stuff for you? Maybe you don’t want everyone to know you are looking to buy a home or move.
There are so many risks.
It’s come to a point where you need to say something up front. It’s an odd conversation to have, because the person may be like, “Huh? I would never do that!” Then it’s uncomfortable from there on out.
I’m not a celebrity, but I could be considered a public figure. The only thing that bothers me, is when people tweet that they see me at a place (not including an event, I expect when I am at a public event that there will be tweeting, that’s how it works.)
It’s when they see me eating lunch or at Wal-Mart. I check my phone. There’s a tweet. “In Wal-Mart shopping next to @daynaroselli!”
I feel weird. You are here, I am here… you know what I look like, I don’t know what you look like. Sooooo, are you behind me right now? Are you across the aisle? Are you looking at me over the clothes rack? I suddenly feel uncomfortable!!
Just say hello instead of tweet me. Please. Feel free to tweet me after.
I know many public figures and celebrities that are told they MUST use twitter. Everyone is on it. They must promote themselves and make that connection with their audience or fans. For the most part that’s true. However, it is an adjustment for those that like to keep their private life PRIVATE. Some people put a lot more out there than others. I think that’s okay. It describes your personality. It’s an important tool, but it can also be managed and used the right way.
My tips: Post pictures, just don’t say where you are (or say it afterward.) If someone tweets you something personal, respond with a funny answer. There are ways to avoid the pressure. Don’t take it so serious. Use it how you want to use it. You are in control of what comes from your account.
It has certainly been beneficial for me. I have been able to brand myself. Create my own me. It gives me a space to spread my content, ideas, thoughts, and news that I cover.
Remember though, respect people’s privacy. Keep that in mind. If you wouldn’t want it out there, maybe that person doesn’t either. We control what we write and how we respond, but we can’t control what others write.
Something to keep in mind. That’s all.
P.S. I may still write about those first three topics I mentioned, at a later date. Once I figure out how to better position the stories.